Disability at a glance

Sitting in the clinic for a day, I came to a conclusion.

First class disability:
physical disability or severe mental retardation (eg blindness, congenital diseases that cause physical disability and mental retardation)
You earn sympathy. Your parents earn respect for taking care of you. People will try to help you and try not to discriminate you. People forgive you for whatever you can't do or did wrong.

Second class disability:
moderate mental retardation, no apparent physical disability
You still earn some sympathy. Your parents still earn some respect for taking care of you. People may try to help you but may tell you off when they are having a bad day when you did something wrong.

Third class disability:
No mental retardation, no physical disability, but you have Asperger syndrome (especially if you have high IQ)or ADHD.
You dont earn sympathy. Your parents get blamed for not teaching/educating you. You get nothing except for a world that doesn't quite accept you and your diagnosis.

Is life fair or unfair?
Well...it depends how you look at disability.

I was in the consultation session of a girl with Asperger + attention deficit disorder. She has an IQ of 120 and is on a private school scholarship. She cried in the consultation.
Mum said: The teachers only see the final results. They don't see how hard she struggles to get there.
(Mum cried, daughter cried and both hold hands)
The story was that she couldn't focus on planning and writing her schoolworks. For example, she spent a whole day to write an essay and she got really tired. She got excellent marks for her essay though. Mum was complaining to the teachers that she struggled to get the results but teachers don't see the problem.

Right...I don't see the problem also.
To me she doesnt have a disability lo.
I tried very very hard to sympathise...
Maybe this is because of our chinese upbringing or unfamiliarity with the diagnosis.